In 2019, in The Halloween Parent Tax: Seriously?, and last year, in Does This Halloween Practice Foretell a Scary Future?, I shared my thoughts about the Halloween “parent tax,” which also goes by the name of “dad tax.” I dislike the idea of parents summarily taking candy from their children. I prefer that parents, throughout the year, teach and encourage their children to share, so that when they return from collecting candy they offer some to their parents without being prompted. Children who are taught to share grow up to be different sorts of adults than children who are ordered to do things without explanation or efforts to deepen understanding so that behavior reflects inner conscience. Too many children raised in authoritarian environments grow up lacking an ability to think critically and end up wanting to live in an authoritarian world.
Sadly, a quick google search reveals that the practice of imposing a parent tax on children not only continues but is being practiced by increasing numbers of parents. That is sad. There even is a parent tax form. And it now has reached the point where the computation of the tax now generated disagreement. As noted in this parent tax advocacy, some parents take a set amount of candy no matter how much the child collects and other parents take percentage, with some taking as much as 50 percent and others advocating percentages such as 33 or 20 percent. If this trend continues, the parent tax will become increasingly complicated, not unlike actual taxes. That’s yet another reason to set aside imposition in favor of teaching children to share.
It is worth repeating what I noted in The Halloween Parent Tax: Seriously?:
So although some people think Halloween presents an opportunity to teach children that “the government” is going to “take some of what you earn,” I think it provides an even better opportunity to teach children the concepts of generosity, empathy, and sharing. Those character traits are disappearing too rapidly among certain segments of society.Now, five years later, in a world increasing afflicted by self-centeredness, I wonder what lessons are actually being learned by children who observe their parents taking substantial portions of their candy, not through sharing but by fiat. Thirty years from now, how will today’s children raised under those circumstances treat their children? How will they treat other people? Will generosity, empathy, and sharing be part of their worldview? The reality could turn out to be scarier than Halloween.